When Nicole Kidman, 50, needed help deciding whether or not to reprise her role from the London play Photograph 51 for a New York version, she put the decision to a vote in a family meeting with her husband, Keith Urban, 50, and daughters Sunday Rose, 9, and Faith Margaret, 6.
"Both my kids said 'no' and my husband said 'I hope not,'" Kidman told the Today Show, according to the . "I would have loved to have done that on Broadway, but I love my kids and my husband far more."
It's that kind of prioritizing that has kept the Australian couple's 11-year marriage strong in the face of public scrutiny and the personal baggage each brought to the relationship—namely Kidman's regrets from her first marriage to Tom Cruise at a young age and Urban's past struggles with alcoholism and cocaine abuse.
Yet the union was nearly dead on arrival. In 2006, four months after their wedding, Urban entered the Betty Ford Center in Palm Springs, California, for alcohol addiction. It wasn't his first stint in rehab: Urban previously addressed a cocaine problem at Nashville's Cumberland Heights treatment center in 1998. Kidman, who was promoting a film in Rome at the time, jumped on a flight upon hearing the news. Urban spent three months in treatment.
"I caused the implosion of my fresh marriage," he told in 2016. "It survived, but it's a miracle it did. I was spiritually awoken with her. I use the expression 'I was born into her,' and that's how I feel. And for the first time in my life, I could shake off the shackles of addiction."
For her part, Kidman brought a hesitancy to the marriage after her first, at age 23, lasted just 10 years. "When you're older, you've been through things, you've made mistakes," she last year. "So you come into it [a second marriage], still giddy, but wanting it to last."
Kidman and Urban have endured their fair share of divorce and separation rumors in the tabloids—while promoting her 2016 film Lion, one Aussie gossip site claimed her friendly displays of affection with director and longtime pal Garth Davis had left Urban feeling publicly disrespected—but Urban calls his wife an open book. "Nic is so unbelievably open; she doesn't keep things in or bottle them up. She's really a great communicator," he . "Because of her, if I open up, every day, I'm listening and growing and learning. If I'm a better man, it's because of her."
These days the couple (aside from the occasional "sext" Urban ) though they talk to each other "multiple times a day," according to Rolling Stone, which surely helps keep their union solid despite the fact that busy careers often have them traveling and on separate schedules. They also have an "no more than seven days apart" rule. The policy, if it's true, explains why Urban hopped on a long-haul flight for Kidman's opening of Photograph 51in London even though he was in the middle of a U.S. tour.
"I said, 'It's too much for you to have to fly all the way back, don't worry,' and he said, 'I'm flying,'" Kidman told in 2015. "He flew 10 hours to come and be with me for the night, and then he flew back and did a gig. That for me is love in action. That's extraordinary. But I would do the same for him and that's what we've committed to as a couple."